Assessing Readiness: Is Your Relationship Ready for Positive Change?
Assessing Readiness: Is Your Relationship Ready for Positive Change?
Deciding to attend therapy for our relationships can be a tough choice to make. Something I always look for when meeting with a new couple is the answer to the question: is this couple here to work on the same goal? While it’s not uncommon for each party to have specific areas they would like to work on, the key is for there to be a common goal in supporting the relationship. In therapy, couples may work towards goals such as understanding each other's emotional needs, balancing work-life responsibilities, fostering intimacy after parenting shifts, navigating financial differences, and establishing healthy boundaries with extended family. Navigating relationship changes and challenges can be difficult, but with the right support and understanding, couples can strengthen their bond and work through even the most complex issues.
One essential factor in therapeutic success is each partner's readiness for change. Understanding where your relationship stands in terms of readiness to address relationship concerns can give you a clearer picture of your relationship and guide a customized approach to support.
Stages of Readiness for Change
Precontemplation: One or both partners may not yet recognize the need for change in their relationship. They might not see issues or might downplay their impact.
Contemplation: One or both partners start recognizing problems in the relationship and consider the possibility of change. They may weigh the pros and cons of making changes.
Preparation: Both partners begin making plans to address issues and set goals for their relationship. They may seek therapy or start discussing possible solutions.
Action: Couples take concrete steps to address their concerns and work towards achieving their relationship goals.
Maintenance: Partners work to sustain the changes they've made and prevent regression.
Here are some strategies that may help you and your partner move forward:
Identify Relationship Concerns: Recognize and discuss the areas in your relationship that need improvement, such as communication, intimacy, or conflict resolution.
Set Goals: Collaboratively establish clear, achievable goals for your relationship and create a plan to work towards them.
Practice Active Listening: Improve communication by truly listening to each other's concerns and perspectives without judgment.
Seek Support: Therapy can provide a safe space to explore issues, improve communication, and strengthen your relationship.
Maintain Positive Habits: Consistency in practicing new, healthy habits can help solidify positive changes and strengthen your connection.
If you and your partner are ready to explore how therapy can help you navigate your relationship challenges, I encourage you to reach out for a consultation. Together, we can work towards creating a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership. - Joelle Santiago DC, AMFT
Bradford, K. (2012). Assessing readiness for couple therapy: the Stages of Relationship Change Questionnaire. The Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 38(3), 486. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1752-0606.2010.00211.x
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this blog post is intended for general informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a mental health condition.
If you are experiencing a mental health emergency or crisis, please contact your local emergency services immediately or go to the nearest emergency room.